my older sibling was physically abusive up until adulthood when i accepted i had grown significantly stronger/larger and told them i would retaliate if they kept it up.
they transitioned fairly quickly into emotional abuse and steadily eroded their friend network just by being a generally self-absorbed horse’s ass.
now we’re decades into adulthood, they are a full blown cry bully when confronted with the consequences of how they treat others and whine incessantly about how nobody wants to be around them.
it took me decades to realize i don’t owe them anything and recognize that the pattern of them having no friends was due to how they treat people. random explosions/lashing out with cruelty when frustrated, completely absorbed with consumerism and its trappings, etc. nobody wants to be around that shit.
Pretty simple equation there. It’s amazing how many people just tie being a jerk to their identity and continuously double down on it. That type of person should only ever be purged from your social circles.
my older sibling was physically abusive up until adulthood when i accepted i had grown significantly stronger/larger and told them i would retaliate if they kept it up.
they transitioned fairly quickly into emotional abuse and steadily eroded their friend network just by being a generally self-absorbed horse’s ass.
now we’re decades into adulthood, they are a full blown cry bully when confronted with the consequences of how they treat others and whine incessantly about how nobody wants to be around them.
it took me decades to realize i don’t owe them anything and recognize that the pattern of them having no friends was due to how they treat people. random explosions/lashing out with cruelty when frustrated, completely absorbed with consumerism and its trappings, etc. nobody wants to be around that shit.
Pretty simple equation there. It’s amazing how many people just tie being a jerk to their identity and continuously double down on it. That type of person should only ever be purged from your social circles.