Truth. People who give some justification for doing things don’t understand what I need. I need the actual reason. If that reason doesn’t exist then the point of the action doesn’t exist.
Difficulty: a sizeable proportion of neurotypical people find it condescending and insulting to have the reason for something explained to them, if it seems like something that an adult should be able to figure out for themselves.
As a consequence of this, they’re also not comfortable explaining things that they consider obvious, because they feel like they’re being rude themselves, and may even consider requests for such explanations to be confrontational.
find it condescending and insulting to have the reason for something explained to them, if [they already understand the reason]
can apply just as well to neuro-atypical people as to neurotypicals.
I don’t think this has to be too complicated though. Don’t explain the reason unless it’s super unobvious, or unless they ask for a reason. If they do ask for the reason, give it in full and without judgment.
Truth. People who give some justification for doing things don’t understand what I need. I need the actual reason. If that reason doesn’t exist then the point of the action doesn’t exist.
Difficulty: a sizeable proportion of neurotypical people find it condescending and insulting to have the reason for something explained to them, if it seems like something that an adult should be able to figure out for themselves.
As a consequence of this, they’re also not comfortable explaining things that they consider obvious, because they feel like they’re being rude themselves, and may even consider requests for such explanations to be confrontational.
Yeah I know, we suck
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can apply just as well to neuro-atypical people as to neurotypicals.
I don’t think this has to be too complicated though. Don’t explain the reason unless it’s super unobvious, or unless they ask for a reason. If they do ask for the reason, give it in full and without judgment.