Hi friends. Is it fucked up to flirt with someone with no intention of taking it further? I’m in a long-term monogamous relationship. Sometimes I crave a little validation from strangers. I’m not going to cheat on my partner, but I do have a need to feel desirable to others. I don’t feel like a bit of flirting is a betrayal of my relationship, but I’m less confident about how other people feel. Like, I don’t want to waste someone else’s time, but I guess maybe I am leading people on a bit if I chat with them without mentioning my partner.
Why do you need to not mention your partner would be my question. I mean sure, if it doesn’t come up, but it seems like you want to actively not mention them.
That in my opinion would be the only problem with this.
This is a good question. I don’t want to lie about anything. I wear a ring, and if asked I will say (and usually gush). That said, here’s what happens: I don’t ever approach a woman with the intention of flirting. If I want to converse with someone at the bar I’ll invariably mention my partner pretty quickly to make it clear that I’m not hitting on her. I feel differently if I’m approached. I find it very flattering, and I want to enjoy that feeling for a few minutes.
All good in my opinion, we all are humans and have the flattering and not so flattering features of our species.