Hi friends. Is it fucked up to flirt with someone with no intention of taking it further? I’m in a long-term monogamous relationship. Sometimes I crave a little validation from strangers. I’m not going to cheat on my partner, but I do have a need to feel desirable to others. I don’t feel like a bit of flirting is a betrayal of my relationship, but I’m less confident about how other people feel. Like, I don’t want to waste someone else’s time, but I guess maybe I am leading people on a bit if I chat with them without mentioning my partner.
What makes it flirting rather than a nice chat between strangers? I don’t mean in general, i mean specifically in your imagined scenario what would make it flirting?
This is a good question and honestly I don’t have a great answer. I’ve never been very good at it, but in this instance let’s say any friendly attention from a stranger at the bar.
Yeah if you go to a bar, start talking to someone and have a nice time i don’t see the issue as long as you don’t make specific ‘moves’ to arm like you want more than a nice drink