Hi there~ I’ve been in a polyamorous//specifically practicing ethically non monogamy for 8 years, 5 of which have been with the same 2 partners. Polyamory takes a lot of communication, a lot of feels come up, but the personal growth from it, and the lovely experiences have been so totally worth it. It’s freeing in a lot of ways, and feels like a major heart expansion personally

I’ve given it a try and had a variety of experiences. It is not the way I intuitively relate to partners but it has been enjoyable as a practice that I have grown from

But I will probably return to monogamy. Either next relationship (last poly connection ended a couple days ago) or some time in the future. But for many people it is a revaluation that you can do relationships that way.

It does require a lot of emotional maturity and willingness to work really hard at relationship building and personal growth though. If you go through with pursuing it, I hope it serves you well or that you positively grow and learn from the experience ❤️

My experience is that there are a lot of people who tell you “how it’s done” and they get very weird about the rules. I understand that comes from their experiences and the general aversion of wanting to not be associated with “poly couple hookup types” you see on Tinder or wherever.

I am poly, but typically just date solo. I’ve joined poly couples as a third, but it’s never really felt right for me; I don’t like hierarchical dating.

My dream relationship is a triad, but my god is that hard to find. I just want my little throuple commune in the woods. :3

If you want a poly relationship that works it has to start poly. It is very common for someone just getting into poly to hurt a nonpoly persons feelings by trying to be “suddenly” poly.

Right now my husband of 15 years is 500km away with his girlfriend of 25 years. And I’m pissed because they’re having sushi and there’s no sushi restaurant around us. I want sushi.
That’s my latest poly story. I don’t mind that he’s having a romantic weekend with another woman (well, I’m happy for them), but I’m jealous of their dinner.

I just got into my first poly relationship with two other trans girls and they were a couple before me. Feels perfectly fine and natural so far even if I was fiercely mono before transitioning and they even talk about moving in together without me. I totally get that’s not for everyone and I certainly couldn’t have handled it in the past.

That said, I have no idea where this is going or if it’s a good idea in the long run. Embracing the unknown because I’ve always rolled like that. Pain is temporary and chicks dig scars kind of a deal. Do chicks dig emotional scars too? How about guys since I’m pan? 😅

To be a bit more serious, I think you probably need to have a pretty strong sense of self worth if poly is going to work for you. Not sure I fit that description precisely, but I feel a lot better about myself than I did before so I’m cautiously optimistic.

Hey! Almost two years into my first poly relationship with two other people. I went in when they had already been a couple for some years now, and that has brought some insecurities, but we’ve been able to talk through them.

If you’re up to try, that’s great! But I have to warn you that there will be a lot of communication and misunderstandings, setting boundaries and constant work for you and your partners to be better people and better partners.

For me it has been quite hard, because I:'very accidentally crossed boundaries through misunderstandings and that has brought a lot of harm, but I’ve also learned a lot and live them very much.

Good luck on your journey and lots of love!

Why do you think that polyamory is the path for you?

I’m asking purely out of curiosity with no intended intonation into it. What about it is more interesting or enjoyable to you?

I’ve been poly most of my adult life and I love it. My biggest advice is to have boundaries, avoid drama, and avoid culty polycules. Also make sure you have you time.

My wife and I both just aren’t cut out for the restriction of monogamy even if we’re only seeing each other at the moment

My cousin and his wife did this and then they got a girlfriend and then the wife got dumped by my cousin and the new girlfriend