• MrSpArkle@lemmy.ca
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    1 month ago

    I was on a dating site many years ago. Never got messaged, rarely got responses.

    Met someone in real life, set my profile to “in a relationship”. Got like 5 messages within a week.

    Definitely a bit of vetting going on

    • shastaxc@lemm.ee
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      1 month ago

      You set your status on a dating app to In a Relationship instead of deactivating it. You got likes after that because you’re now passing search filters for a different demographic: nonmonogamous people

      • JokeDeity@lemm.ee
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        1 month ago

        It’s weird how you’re getting more upvotes than he did when all you did was summarize what he already said in a tone like it was new information.

        • Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works
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          1 month ago

          It recontextualizes things a bit - this is not purely a function of vetting, but places him in a different (smaller) category than he was in previously on the app.

          • JokeDeity@lemm.ee
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            1 month ago

            Tomato tamato. You end up in the same place and the journey looks the same.