• brrt@sh.itjust.works
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    1 month ago

    I feel you with everything you wrote. My theoretical take on “I’d feel bad for anyone I’d let close…” is that

    1. You might a better person than many, because many people do not think about the impact of their actions on others
    2. Everyone is doing things for themselves. Just be honest with them and yourself and try not to hurt anyone in the process as best as you can.
    3. It’s a very nice rationalization for not having to try at all. It’s easier to just mope by yourself :D

    What to do with all of this? Who knows… The struggle is real.

    • pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      1 month ago

      Thank you for your kind reality check. I know it’s not as bad as it feels… The problem is the feeling is part of the barrier.

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        1 month ago

        Yeh, I know. This is as much of a reality check for me as it is for you.

        I need to constantly remind myself that other people struggle too, they might just not show it.

        It’s ok to have those feelings and to have that barrier. But peek over it from time to time, maybe there’s someone there peeking over theirs.