Please don’t think I’m here to complain about rizz or skibidi toilet etc. Thats all fine by me.

The term I dislike strongly is ‘eeeh’ before you make a statement disagreeing with someone. (This is over text only). Now maybe I’ve been pavloved bc it’s always used by someone disagreeing. But I’m happy with people disagreeing with me normally its just the ‘eeeh’ or ‘erm’ that annoys me.

So what’s a random term that annoys you?

PS. Saying “eeeh actually ‘eeh’ is a perfectly fine term” would be a ridiculously easy joke and I will judge you for making it. And I know atleast one person will. Especially bow that I’ve said all this.

  • DumbAceDragon@sh.itjust.works
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    More of a grammatical mistake, but “should of” instead of “should’ve” or “should have” annoys the hell out of me for some reason. I completely get how people make the mistake, but it’s as much effort as just typing it correctly.

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      I judge the shit out of people for this. It suggests that they don’t even grasp the meaning of the words they are typing or saying.

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    Never mind I found it

    …took the effort to nvm-d the post, but did not share how, where, or what etc

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    “Who hurt you?”

    These days, that’s shorthand for “I’m an emotionally stunted liberal who is so incapable of self-reflection that anyone who disagrees with a point I have must be acting from a place of unresolved trauma”. It’s always felt like people-who-definitely-used-to-post-to-4chan burning extra words to get to the r-slur they so desperately want to use; but with the exact kind of plausible deniability that gets their squishy bits either hard or wet.

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      and they even have subtly different meanings that the talker often doesn’t seem to realize.

      you use something for what it’s meant for. use a bucket to carry water.

      you utilize something for something it works fine for, but it’s not really the intended use. you utilize a shoe to prop opena window.

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      I’ve always thought queer had 2 connotations. The first being the slur. The second is a catch all for someone not lgbt or someone who doesn’t know what they are yet.

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        Agreed!

        But there’s also a certain expectation of “flamboyance” from the gay community, or you’re “not gay enough” and I think a lot of self-identifying queer peeps are to blame.

        On top of the poor history of the word, I just don’t want to be associated with colourfulness and energy because that’s simply not who I am. People from outside looking into LGBTQ+ assume that that’s who gay men need to be because of media representation… It makes me tired.

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          But there’s also a certain expectation of “flamboyance” from the gay community, or you’re “not gay enough” and I think a lot of self-identifying queer peeps are to blame.

          I feel this is due to a noticeably high level of what I’ve come to call “the ladder-puller generation” among gay folk. Y’know, the white faux-upper-class guys or girls who got the white collar job, do everything in their power to maintain a pristine aura of political ‘good-one-ness’ even when it means throwing their disadvantaged supposed-kin under the nearest bus. The ones who pulled up the ladders behind them as soon as they got to ‘routine brunch-goer’ level. I put it on them, and the compatibles that just welcome cops and corporations into Pride when it was supposed to be a riot against those forces.

          If someone isn’t loudly and proudly out around me, if someone goes to bat for rainbow-washers that shuck and jive for thirty days just to pump extra profit, then I automatically assume they’re a ladder-puller that would sell me out to whoever for whatever if it meant they could get a little bit further in the cosplay-cishettry that is their life; because sometimes, it’s the ladder-puller gays that are more dangerous to us than the cishet settlers.

          tl;dr, they might fuck like us, but they not like us; and it’d take a near-government level background check for me to trust someone like that. From where I sit, the ladder-pullers, the pristine-optics gays? They let all of our artists, our creators, and the gays actually worth knowing die to AIDS, 'cause it’d have been icky to cede them help. That’s why I don’t trust the optics-bothers. Because the optics-bothers and ladder-pullers were the only ones to make it out.

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    “bend the knee”
    “Sweet summer child”
    And other phrases from GoT that people now pretend they’ve been saying their whole lives

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      The latter might have had a resurgence because of GoT, but I definitely heard the phrase before the show came out. I had to look it up to make sure, but it’s origins go back to the 1800s.

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        Nah it’s origins is a single use in a written poem with a significantly different meaning. Looking at the trends it’s clear that it’s GoT. People just use that poem as their cover, unwilling to accept that their memory is a foreign country

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          Aight. I’m glad your anecdotal experience in life is indicative of mine and what I’ve interacted with, seen, and read.

          Iono why I tried interacting with a hex user in the first place. It always seems to end up in derision and self-labeled omniscience.

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            “Anecdotal evidence” lmao. Yeah bud the historical analysis and the reference to trends are super anecdotal. Sorry for not providing you with leagues of documents in what I thought was a chill civil interaction.

            Aight.

            rage-cry <- You. I cannot imagine getting this butthurt over a casual conversation.

            Iono why I tried interacting with a hex user in the first place. It always seems to end up in derision and self-labeled omniscience.

            If you meet a person who stinks, then you’ve met a person who stinks. If everyone stinks, then you’ve stepped in dogshit - Dalai Llama. The Llama also told you to look inwards and be less of a redditor. Also to drop this weird faux-conversation tone you’ve suddenly adopted in an attempt to appear above it all. He said it’s cringe.

            Anyways here’s the poem with a significantly different meaning of sweet summers child - because of course it is. The meaning of sweet summer child only makes sense within the universe of GoT. https://books.google.co.uk/books?id=mGQSAAAAYAAJ&pg=PA52#v=onepage&q&f=false - It is here referring a lovely breeze, a sweet child of the summer.
            And whoops what’s this? https://trends.google.com/trends/explore?date=all&q=Sweet summer child&hl=da Oh wow would you look at that, it sees a drastic increase alongside the release of the first season of GoT. Odd. Huh. I’d go into the interesting reasons for why the first usage doesn’t line up with the series release or the first book, but you’re being a whiny little pissant so now I’d rather not and hopefully annoy you some more.
            Fuck you

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            Nobody cares about settler anecdotes; not when very recent mass-market slop (I have no respect for A Song of Ice and Fire; especially not after the “Grimdark Low Fantasy that FUCKS”/“fantasy for people who would rather be watching the Sopranos” adaptation) provides a much more likely outcome for why this phrase is back in the zeitgeist than a poem from the 1800s.

            Amerikans don’t read poetry anymore as it is; if they even read at all. Midwesterners, man; I’d rather talk to a full-time coastal elite than some of you crackers

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      Okay but if we use “Late stage capitalism and the quest for profit above all else is causing the quality of goods and commodities to drop while their value stays the same or goes up,” it’s going to result in 20 minutes trying to explain things correctly followed by 20 hours of anti-communist arguments.

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        That will at least explain why things are getting worse tho. The term enshittification is just nostalgic idealization with no real theory behind it.

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      Marxists have a hundred years of text dedicated to alienation from labor, the falling rate of profit, degeneration of art and creative disciplines under later capitalism due to the profit motive, cycles of class struggle, all based on a materialist analysis of changing production and class relationsi

      But for some reason a trendy term like enshittification that vaguely means things are getting worse, without going into the basis about why they’re currently getting worse, has caught on.

      I’m convinced it’s part of the tech grifter trend to take things that were already invented, slap a new name on it, repackage it, and sell it.

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        I suggest you read up a bit on how and by whom the term was coined and what it actually means. It’s by no means ‘vague’ and it is also a bit more than just repackaging and selling something already known. I suspect many people using the term aren’t even fully aware of what it describes and, crucially, what is being proposed to reduce the effects it describes.

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        Can I suggest joining “the Toastmasters” https://www.toastmasters.org/ . I found it very educational. I learned that was rushing to fill the “dead air” before I had fully formed my thought (read:sentence).

        All my "um"s and "er"s disappeared. You will be fine.

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          Thanks for the recommendation, I’m always glad to discover new resources. I’m also forever cursing the fact that science degrees don’t put more emphasis on writing and speaking well.

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    Not a term, but a lack thereof:

    People I have to regularly interact with for work have been excluding “to be”, especially with “needs”, and it’s infuriating.

    This issue needs escalated. That report needs fleshed out. Let me know if anything needs cleared up.

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    Please do the needful.

    This one really grinds my gears! I think it’s because the person can’t even be bothered to describe what they want you to do, just go fix it and don’t bother me with any details.

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      Indian here. Redditors say that Indians say this a lot. I’d like to tell you that while Indians do use this sentence, it’s almost always placed only after a long, somewhat-gone-off-tangent-in-some-places conversation that explained everything well.

      Maaaaaaybe it was to convince you without describing tasks, but… mostly, it’s not so.

      Also, I don’t remember hearing it IRL at all. Just felt like I have heard it at least twice in my 18 years of humaning around.

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    “The proof is in the pudding.” It makes zero sense! The actual adage is, “The proof of the pudding is in the eating.” It means that a dessert can look perfect and enticing, but if the cook used salt instead of sugar it will taste disgusting.

    I don’t know what people even think they’re saying with “the proof is in the pudding”.

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      when i was a kid, i figured it was a reference to some now obscure detective story, where a bowl of pudding contained the important clue as to who the killer was or something. it wasn’t until much later that i heard of this etymology.